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The majority of women think of rape as a stranger jumping out of the bushes and sexually assaulting her. This is a good news and bad news situation.
The good news is that the "jump out the bushes rapist is A) the rarest type and B) the easiest to avoid and prevent. The same measures that keep you from being robbed will protect you from being sexually assaulted in this manner. So the odds of this happening to you are pretty rare to start with and a few simple, commonsense measures will greatly reduce those odds even further.
Now, for the really good news, if you are not associating with a certain kind of people or engaging in high risk behaviors, the odds of you being raped plummet close to zero.
Unfortunately, that is the last of the good news.
The bad news is that the reality of rape is not simple. It is, in fact, a complex problem. And complex problems seldom, if ever, have simple solutions. An undisputed truth is that "stranger" rapes only constitute a minute number of rapes. An overwhelming majority of sexual assaults occur between people who know one another, sometimes intimately, sometimes peripherally, but it is someone you have regular dealings with.
That means it is not just a simple "crime" nearly as much as it's human interaction. That is where things start getting complicated.
With that complication, however, comes a very important point: The very fact that it is a matter of human interaction gives you influence on what happens. Being sexually assaulted is something you have a large degree of control over -- for both good and bad effect.
Agendas, slants and biases
As if it weren't complicated enough, rape takes its place right up with politics, religion and child safety as a subject that will evoke irrational, knee-jerk and violent reactions when it is broached. Unfortunately, you cannot approach this subject reasonably until you are familiar with the various agendas, spin doctoring, and biases that affect the information that you will receive. It is sad to say it, but much of what is being taught as WSD is not reliable self-defense information. We consider this an important point because some of these agendas are so extreme, if you follow their advice, they will, in fact, increase your chances of being both sexually and physically assaulted. Our no nonsense approach (and our response to the hate mail we get) is right here and in the open.
Facts about rape
Facts, myths and misconceptions about rape
Human mating behavior
Rape is a parasite that hides within a very normal human behavioral pattern. By recognizing the original goal and intent of the human mating behavior, we can recognize when the process is going awry. Dr Desmond Morris's 12 steps bonding process and how, this process of establishing intimacy can relate to rape when it goes wrong.
High risk behavior
High risk behavior won't guarantee that you will be raped. But if you are sexually assaulted, odds are it will have been a major contributing factor. As there is a profile for rapists, there is a common profile for the women who are raped. There are certain behaviors and attitudes that will put women in serious danger.
Officer Ken Pence from the Nashville police force has created a "Rate Your Risk" quiz to assess your danger. We suggest you follow this offsite link and take the test.
Personal responsibility vs. blame vs. rights
furthering the defensive driver analogy we come to the liability issue. It is not uncommon among young inexperienced drivers to have an attitude that they don't need to adopt defensive driving posture because "if the other guy hits me, it will be his fault." These people are speaking from a confidence borne from a lack of experience. It is easy to have this flip attitude- and tailor your actions accordingly - until things go "sideways". But by then it is too late. To avoid crashing in this manner a person needs to have an understanding about difference between blame, rights and personal responsibility
Added on: 06/02/2008 08:33:28
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