How to Tell if You're in an Unhealthy Relationship
Unhealthy or abusive relationships occur
PHYSICAL ABUSE
Does your partner:
? Push or shove you
? Hold you back from leaving
? Hit or punch you
? Lock you out of the car
? Slap or bite you
? Kick or choke you
? Throw objects at you
? Leave you behind somewhere
? Control your actions
EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Does your partner:
? Ignore your feelings
? Insult or ignore your beliefs/values
? Refuse to socialize or talk to you
? Make decisions for you
? Talk about involvements w/ other partners
? Act jealous for no reason
? Shout at you
? Withhold approval or affection from you as punishment
? Threaten to hurt you
? Manipulate you with lies and contradictions
? Drive recklessly to frighten or intimidate you
VERBAL ABUSE
Does your partner:
? Make you feel threatened, intimidated, humiliated, yelled at, inferior or stupid
? Call you names, make you feel crazy, play mind games
? Use emotional or verbal assaults to make you feel sad, worthless or unwanted
? Constantly use words or feelings to criticize, belittle, embarrass, shame, insult or reject you
? Make excessive, aggressive, unreasonable demands that are beyond your capacity
SEXUAL ABUSE
Does your partner:
? Joke or make remarks about your sex/intimacy
? Get jealous, angry, tell you that you should be more sexually active
? Insist that you dress in a more sexual way than you feel comfortable with
? Minimize the importance of your feelings about sex/intimacy
? Criticizes you about your sexual performance
? Withholds affection
? Flirt or make moves on others in front of you
? Call you sexual names as a put-down
? Insist on unwanted touching or other unwanted sexual/intimate act
**If you answered "yes" to 3 or more questions you are experiencing dangerous signs of relationship abuse. It may be time to seek out help, after all YOU DESERVE TO BE RESPECTED AND HAPPY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS!!
ALSO REMEMBER--YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Unfortunately, somewhere between ¼ and ½ of all young adult relationships involve some form of abuse—whether it be physical, emotional, verbal, sexual or psychological. Oftentimes, destructive relationship dynamics appear slowly over time and you do not realize you are being controlled and manipulated until you are deeply involved in the relationship. You may feel confused and scared about what is going on, but you need to deal with it because the abuse will likely get worse over time. Please find help and support for yourself.
How to Help Yourself:
• You must realize the seriousness of the abuse and make your getting help the first priority in your life.
• Talk to trusted friends, family members, or professional counselors to help support you as you entangle yourself from the relationship and regain your former self-esteem that has been temporarily stolen from you
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Added on: 27/05/2008 12:43:28
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Relationship Help -- Emotional Intelliegience...
Test Your Emotional Intelligence
What is your current emotional intelligence skill level? Most of us have relationship problems at times with coworkers, acquaintances, friends, relatives, or other people we care about. Your emotional intelligence is your set of key relationship skills that help you establish strong relationships and deal with relationship problems. Find your emotional intelligence skill level by answering “true” or “false” to the questions in this quick relationship quiz.
---->1. I hold eye contact with the person to whom I’m speaking.
---->2. I am comfortable with pauses when others are experiencing emotion.
---->3. I sense when someone feels troubled before being told.
---->4. I am comfortable with my feelings of sadness, joy, anger, and fear.
---->5. I pay attention to my emotions when making decisions.
---->6. I have no problem expressing my emotions to others.
---->7. I can reduce my stress to a comfortable level.
---->8. I enjoy laughing, playing, or kidding around.
---->9. I don’t feel threatened by disagreements
---->10. When others are speaking, I listen to them rather than formulating my reply.
Answering “true” to most of these questions indicates that you already have a good grasp on the skills that will strengthen your relationships and help you avoid relationship problems. But don’t worry if most of your answers were “false.” By learning about emotional intelligence, you can start to raise your emotional intelligence abilities. You will learn the key skills you can use to improve your current relationships, and to forge strong new ones—both in your personal life and the workplace.
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Added on: 22/05/2008 07:24:19
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